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Each week I host Tea Tuesday, a virtual tea party which was inspired by Christine, a follower who lives in France, curious about English tea traditions. The British may have failed miserably in other culinary areas, but they excel in the tea ritual. Each Tuesday, I dish on Downton Abbey and share other topical tea issues one might discuss at tea, served up with a tea treat with a history.
The Online Guide will be updated weekly as I add new recipes, so bookmark and return to whenever you are looking for tea history and new recipe ideas.
History of the English Tea Ritual
In 1662 Catherine of Braganza of Portugal married Charles II and brought with her the preference for tea, which had already become common in Europe. As tea was her temperance drink of choice, it slowly gained social acceptance among some of the aristocracy as she replaced wine, ale and spirits with tea as the court drink. It did take some time though to ween courtiers from enjoying ale at breakfast. Baby steps.
Origins of Afternoon Tea
The actual taking of tea in the afternoon developed into a new social event some time in the late 1830’s and early 1840’s. It was Anne, Duchess of Bedford, one of Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, who is credited for first “inventing” Afternoon Tea, but actually it had been a gradual evolution. The gap between lunch and supper was widening, so Anne started asking for tea and small cakes to be brought to her private quarters. I am sure she quickly realized that a lot of gossip could be shared if she invited other ladies to her quarters to share her cakes. Queen Victoria herself was encouraged to start hosting her own parties as a way of re-entering society after the passing of her beloved husband Albert. Legend has it that Victoria Sponge was named and served at her tea parties which became large affairs. Other women picked up the idea and spread like wildfire. Thus the ritual of afternoon tea began. Women do know how to get things done.
If you wish to learn more about the tea ritual, Jane Pettigrew is an acknowledged tea expert, with a deep passion for sharing the love of tea around the world. She has published many books, including the Social History of Tea.
Tea lingo: Various Tea Times
If you are planning a visit to the UK, watch Downton Abbey, Coronation Street, or other British type serials, it might be helpful to get proper knowledge of the terms used.
- Cream Tea — A simple tea service consisting of scones, clotted cream, marmalade or lemon curd and tea.
- Elevensies — Morning coffee hour in England (I remember the Hobbits used this term in Lord of the Rings. I thought that they ate 11 times a day…just like me!)
- Afternoon Tea — What we imagine all British teas to be. An afternoon meal, served typically from 4 – 6 pm, which includes the tiers of smart little crustless sandwiches, scones, clotted cream, curd, 2-3 sweets and heaps of tea.
- Low Tea— This still an afternoon tea, but called “low tea” because guests are seated in low armchairs with low side-tables on which to place their cups and saucers.
- Royale Tea — A social tea served with champagne at the beginning or sherry at the end of the tea.
- Celebration Tea — Another variation of afternoon tea with a celebratory cake which is also served alongside the other sweets
- High Tea — High tea is eaten in “high chairs” at the dinner table. Afternoon Tea is traditionally served on lower couches and lounging chairs. It actually is a meal that the working class had at the end of the day with cold meats, potatoes, as well as other foods with tea and perhaps a beer. Americans confuse the two, and since some London tea houses use the terms interchangeable to keep tourists happy, it adds to the confusion.
Tea Etiquette

Matthew helps himself to Madeleines (ITV)
Displaying acceptable manners is a way of fitting in with a certain class. Pay attention to the “tea scene” in S1 E2 of Downton Abbey. Matthew comes home to find visitors, and decides to help himself to tea and madeleines to the horror of Molesley, the butler, and embarrassment of his mother, the Dowager and Cora. Yes, it is evident that this middle class lawyer is a diamond in the rough, and has a long way to go before he will become a true gentleman, but we gradually see him growing into the role of heir apparent.If you plan to enjoy the tea ritual in London or your home town, book an Afternoon Tea (not High Tea), and do take note of proper manners to fully enjoy the experience. You may recall I had dress code challenges when I tried to have tea with the girls at The Ritz, so book early and ask questions. In London, they do try to do things properly, which is why we adore Downton Abbey in the first place, right?
It always seems that whenever the Dowager has tea, there was always something in particular she wished to discuss.
Regardless, there are some tips to make the tea less stressful with the Dowager, your local tea shop, or famous London tea house:
- Sugar/lemon —tea is poured first, then sugar or thinly sliced lemon and never milk and lemon together as it will curdle.
- Milk goes in after tea — a nice little saying: “To put milk in your tea before sugar is to cross the path of love, perhaps never to marry.” (Tea superstition)
- Who Pours? — If you are the hostess, you should pour. If you are taking tea at a tea house, it is the person who is closest to the pot when the pot is brought to the table.
- Proper placement of spoon — the spoon never stays in the cup.
- Proper holding of cup — use both hands to lift both cup and saucer to drink from, and please no pinkies*. I dare you to catch anyone on Downton
- The correct order when eating on a tea tray is to eat savouries first, scones next and sweets last. We have changed our order somewhat. We like guests to eat the scones first while they are hot, then move to savouries, then sweets.
- Scones — the most practical approach according to Debrett’s is to split the scone horizontally before adding your favorite spreads.
- Cream, then jam on scones? —This depends. Devon tradition puts clotted cream first on scones, then jam. In Cornwall, preserves first. Eat with fingers neatly.
- Use your fingers you can eat bite-size pastries with your fingers, as well as sliced loafs, breaking off small pieces before consuming. Use a dessert fork to eat larger pastries.
- No dunk zone — unless your tea party is very informal, dunking treats in your tea will garner a scowl from the Dowager.
*Since ancient Rome, a cultured person ate with 3 fingers, a commoner with five. Thus, the birth of the raised pinkie as a sign of elitism. This 3 fingers etiquette rule is still correct when picking up food with the fingers and handling various pieces of flatware. The pinky “up” rule is actually a misinterpretation of the 3 fingers vs 5 fingers dining etiquette in the 11th century.
How to Build a Tea Service on a Budget
I am a bit of a pack rat and have accumulated a number of pieces over the years for my tea service. Some I have inherited, a few are treasured gifts from friends, but many I have picked up at yard sales and thrift stores over the years. Your tea service does not have to match and in fact it works out better when each person has their own personal cup to keep track of.
If you are keen on starting your own tea service, try checking out your local Goodwill store. You will be amazed at what you may find.
How to Make Tea
Don’t get too stressed about making tea, particularly since much tea is now sold in tea bags. To distinguish yourself as a tea aficionado, however, just follow the time honored tradition of first warming the tea pot. Add a bit of boiling water to the pot, give it a swirl and pour it out before adding your tea. Steep 3 or 4 minutes and don’t let the tea steep too long or it will become bitter. Watch this clip as the Dowager Countess demonstrates how one makes a proper cup of tea while still catching up on current events (video ITV).
If you go with loose tea, the general guideline is to allow for 1 tsp per person, 1 tsp for the pot, and allow 10 ounces per person. Use a tea strainer and pour into cups. You may wish to fill your tea pot with tap water, pour into a measuring cup to determine how many cups your pot will hold. Debrett’s also advises that you keep a heated pot of water nearby in case to help dilute tea if it is too strong.
Let’s Eat: The Tea Menu
The following are the types of items you will find at tea. Follow the links to locate recipes for items we have prepared in our travels.
I mostly focus on traditional tea items (great food always has a history). I am a big fan of healthy eating and while many of these treats are “sometimes” foods, but I also include healthy versions of some treats which you can enjoy anytime.
The general rule to the tea tray is that items can be eaten by hand so are cut into bite sized pieces, and generally cold, unless you have scones right out of the oven.
Look for all my afternoon tea recipes in the Recipe Index.
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You & your site are amazing! Thanks for all your hard work. This is such a beautiful, as well as informative blog. There are so many dishes I am inspired to make. So glad I found it!
Hi Pamela! I am going to use this tea bible when the cast and crew of Titanic:A New Musical at TUTS Vancouver organizes a high tea to celerate the final week of rehearsals! Thanks so much!
Yay! Someone that knows that high tea is supper and is serving a real high tea. You go girl.
Thank you so much. Very helpful to us Americans!
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This is your tea bible!
Read this to avoid making a fool of yourself at tea parties!
lovely article on tea. great info, thank you!
Great source of information! Thank you for clarifications on the different types of Tea service. Americans still make the mistake of referring to a traditional afternoon tea as a High Tea (one of my pet peeves).
Hello, in the Dowager Countess clip showing how to serve tea, she uses a hot water type urn to pour the water into the tea pot. Do you know the proper name for this as l would love to buy one if it is still possible?
You know i really don’t know, but I would love to have one myself. Perhaps another follower will be able to provide some insight.
I found out the name of it. They are called Tea Kettles & some used spirits to create heat at the base or tea candles
When we were in Russia they called the urn’s Samovar, some designs are quite beautiful. Just found your blog today Pamela, Love it!
We used to sell these in our tea room. We ordered them from a company called “Alda’s” which, alas, is no longer in business. They called them “tea tippers”. Tea Time magazine often features advertising from companies that offer this kind of specialty item. Actually, just google it. There are several options! Have fun!
The tea story relating to marriage is about how young women’s suitors were tested for “proper breeding” before being allowed to court (proceed to woo her to wed).
Poorer quality china (porcelain) cracked due to thermal shock if hot tea went in first- so the custom was to put in the milk, then the tea- thus lessen the thermal shock.
Thus, if a man put milk in first- he could be seen to be from poorer stock- and lesser breeding thus successfully out out of the running by the Dowager.
Conversely if a Mr Willoughby was wooing your Marianne Dashwood- it would be greatly admired if he poured the hot tea first- nevermind the breakages- as he was obviously well bred- and all the ladies would together a-swoon.
That’s an interesting tidbit I hadn’t heard before. My understanding had been that milk was poured in first because the earlier china couldn’t stand up to the thermal shock, and that people only started reversing the process when higher-quality cups and such became available; it makes sense that those able to afford the higher-quality pieces would be the first to own them (and then proceed to make pouring milk into tea a status thing).
Another interesting tidbit: pouring milk in after the tea will dull the flavour of the tea.
How funny – an Irish friend told me the milk was poured in first to prevent staining or discoloration on the cups- both theories makes sense I suppose- I didn’t know pouring it after dilutes flavor! good to know-:)
Great, informative post! I love tea and the rich tradition associated with it. Consider this bookmarked.
What specific brands and types of tea are recommended?
Generally you want to offer two or three types. Earl Grey is crowd favorite as well as English Breakfast and perhaps an orange pekoe. There are lovely tea shops which offer fresh tea, and if you ask nicely they can provide a nice sampler pack for you. If you are a fan of history, Typhoo Tips http://wp.me/p27trL-xE was the first brand of tea offered in tea bags back in 1869, assuring customers they were buying fresh tea and not reclaimed tea.
Thank you so much!
What a delightful site; Tea and Downton Abbey- What could be better?
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Excellent information! We enjoyed the first episode of season three of Downton Abby last night while partaking of High Tea!
Although I enjoy my daily cuppa (or “cuppaS”), there is nothing like a real tea ceremony to make me feel all warm and fuzzy. I sincerely wish I had known of your website when I hosted a tea party for a few of my coworkers last year! We had cucumber sandwiches, scones with clotted cream, jam, and lemon curd, and I made “lemon drops” which are essentially slices of homemade sponge cake with lemon curd between the layers and topped with whipped cream and a raspberry (or a gooseberry if you’re being authentic). Such good fun!!
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Good Afternoon.
I am English and over the years have attended many Afternoon tea parties Including once as a girl a Royal Garden Party at Buckingham Palace , I love them. I am just about to host my own Downtown tea party for 60. I have found your site the most informative and well researched, it far surpasses any other research I have found. The links to the recipes are very useful. Thank you for all your hard work and research. Your site is lovely.
Suzanne, Oxfordshire, Uk
An absolutely brilliant guide. Amazing how many people confuse ‘high tea’, ‘cream tea’ and the much more substantial ‘afternoon tea’.
I’m constantly “on about” tea on my comfort food blog. Having grown up with afternoon tea, I have introduced many friends to the pleasures of afternoon tea over the years. Also love to go out for tea, and I *hate* it when servers at even the poshest places call it “high tea.” I think Americans do that because it sounds more “haute.”
Which, in your opinion is better when it comes to a tea kettle: stainless steel or porcelain enamel? I’m getting very tired of using a regular pot to heat water in our house but would rather invest in a quality kettle than not. Any information you could give would be appreciated. Thank you.
I have always used a stainless steel kettle, we currently have a smart looking brushed Cuisinart cordless version, and didn’t realize you could find porcelain, but you must live in a wonderful part of the world where they exist. As for a teapot, ceramic is the way to go.
Thank you for your input! The porcelain kettles I’ve seen are online actually. Not many to choose from but there are a few companies that make them. Again, thank you for replying.
Well. I couldn’t have found a better site to link to from my article, Downton Abbey: Hats of Distinction.
As the Teapixie, I live for tea and the taking of tea. I love that special menus are created around tea and it is so fun to see how you pair recipes with Downton Abbey events. Even if the events are tragic.
Isn’t television fun? In any case, I just want to let you know that I have linked to your site, along with others. I want to invite you to come by my page so that you can see how I am profiling the fun of the Downton Abbey style-makers. I am regularly updating the article with new links and new hats.
Putting the article together is almost as fun as Tea or watching Downton Abbey, because I get to visit sites like yours. Thank you so much for creating a site with true tea ambiance!
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